It’s hard when you come to the realization that you are no longer able to use your favorite coffee mug because it’s become too heavy to hold. I am a coffee lover and have a beautiful red mug I have used for years to drink my morning coffee from. My routine is to make coffee in my red mug, sit in my favorite chair and savor a moment of calm before the world wakes up. Somehow coffee just tastes better that way.
But as Multiple Sclerosis has progressed in my body, keeping that routine has become difficult. I still make my morning cup of coffee, but no longer in my red mug. Now it’s in a lighter weight, no-spill blue mug that I find much easier to hold onto.
I fought making that change, but coffee stains on my shirt were not very stylish and I wasn’t a fan of being burned from hot liquids. Talk about a sad realization.
That kind of change has happened quite often in my life since my MS diagnosis. Some of the things I love or have used for years have needed to be put to the side because MS got in the way. It’s not something I wanted to happen…it’s just a reality of living with MS.
A few changes I have made have been letting go of the shoes that didn’t work with my AFO leg braces for those times I try walking, changing out my silverware for lighter weight ones that don’t exhaust my hands, placing a ramp at my front door so I could go in and out of the house in my wheelchair with greater ease, rearranging my kitchen cabinets so items I frequently use are easier to reach, removing the area rugs that get in the way of wheels and feet, adding a cord to the front door knob so I can pull the door shut behind me as I wheel myself out of the house, and adding a remote control deadbolt lock to the door so I can lock and unlock the door without fumbling with small keys. All of those changes were things I rebelled against doing, but they have made my life easier and more manageable.
I could have refused to make those changes, but I decided to accept what my body was telling me and adjusted life accordingly. Why make things harder than needed?
Changes happen a lot with Multiple Sclerosis. You find yourself having to adjust life in ways you simply didn’t want. Some of those changes hurt and some are easy, but never let the fact that you have to make a change get you down. Realize that changes are going to happen and decide to just go with the flow.
Embrace the changes no matter how hard or significant of a change they are. You will find that over time the addition of equipment to help you through your day or the removal of things that have the potential of making life more difficult is not something to be afraid of. Change is okay. It doesn’t make you less of a person because you need added tools or different things to help you out. You are amazing just as you are no matter what you can or can’t do or what equipment is needed in the process.