“Other” days happen

Some days it’s easy to smile. You wake up to the smell of your favorite breakfast cooking, birds are singing sweetly outside your window, the sun is peaking over the horizon as gorgeous colors fill the sky, and you have no schedules to keep or places to be. It’s a free day to simply be.

But then there are “other” days. Other days can be a terrible hodgepodge of disappointments and frustrations. They are days when life smacks you in the face and you didn’t even get a chance to duck. (Ka-pow)

Lately, I have been having more “other” days than “some” days. Other days have a tendency to steal your smile and bring you tears. I hate other days. I wish they could be banished from this world; that we could revolt against them and refuse their entry into our lives. But life happens and other days come.

So, what do you do when you discover today to be an other day? When you wake up to disappointments, frustrations and setbacks? When it seems everything that could go wrong is going wrong? When you feel as if you’re sinking and you didn’t even know you were thrown out of a boat in the middle of the ocean to begin with?

There is nothing worse than feeling as if you have no control. It’s a lonely place to be. Living with Multiple Sclerosis has this way of throwing those curve balls and upsetting life and turning your entire universe inside out.

But know that you aren’t alone. There are many of us facing challenges and uncertainties in life whether it’s due to an illness, work difficulties, financial struggles, problems with other people or a combination of them all in one. The weight of the turmoil happening around us can get so heavy that sometimes you forget how to breathe. It happens.

That’s why we have to stick together during those terrible storms. I can guarantee you that you will make it through to tomorrow. The clouds will clear up and better days are ahead.

Surround yourself with people that support you, accept you and love you. Life is too short to hang onto those who drag you down. You are important even when every thought in your head is screaming at you telling you differently. Nothing and no one should ever define you.

Don’t let MS or any other struggle cause you to give up and stop believing in yourself.

If today is an “other” day for you, it’s okay to close yourself off from the world and cry for a bit. But once you have shed your tears and let out your frustrations, get up, shake yourself off and charge ahead. You are not a quitter. I believe in you!

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About the Author
About the Author
Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

8 replies
  1. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    Hi I have had that progression of days for all my times. Wednesday I had forgotten I had my infusion in the afternoon so I did some weed removals and got really stuffed doing it . So in the afternoon my right leg turned off and I felt helpless to get it better. I stumble into the medical center and almost collapsed. They had not seen me like that before so it was an eyeopener for them.
    But last night (Thursday) I had an appointment with Specsavers as a 2 Year checkup. Now back in 1970 I had a perpete blow up in my face and one small shard entered into my right eye cutting the cornea in the middle leaving a scar in its’ place. The doctors back then told me if had been 1/64th of an inch deeper i would have been blind for life. So I had lived with this since then
    With the treatment of the MIS416 some of that scar tissue was lifted and it got a bit clearer I was told my right eye had got better and my left was getting worse. Now on their records they had it that my left was good and my right was bad. Now my right is good and my left bad and this happened in five years..
    With the advent of this new information I will get my cataracts removed and get clearer view again.
    All in all we have bad days and good ones. I suppose we should learn from the bad days to set them as ‘normal’ and the good days as above ‘normal’

  2. Kelly
    Kelly says:

    Hi all. This is my first time for a comment. A few nights ago. I was getting out of bed and I fell hitting my back on the door frame. My ms has progressed. I’m doing ok though with s lot of support with carers during the day. I’ll be so lost with out them. You all take care. And keep Smiling.

  3. Lyla
    Lyla says:

    yep, other days are humbling for me – and frustrating. I am going to get through today, one way or another. Taking my time, giving me all the talc I can muster. ❤️

  4. Lisa
    Lisa says:

    Thank you! Your posts always seem to be the right word and the needed times. I’ve had a few of those “other” days lately. I keep telling myself the next day will be better, and there have been a few good days mixed in. My children are done with school tomorrow so those stresses will be gone for a few months, only to have different ones for summer! 🙂 I was diagnosed with MS last summer so this last year has been a “learning experience” for me in even knowing what MS is and why the things happening to my body are happening. I thank God that I am still able to function mostly “normal” at this time. Vision problems have been my greatest problem at this point. I have good and bad days, but am still able to work full time at this point. Thankfully I have a very patient job and supervisor that know there are good and bad days. Your posts daily are an encouragement. Thank you!

  5. Nancy
    Nancy says:

    I had the “other day” yesterday as well, and it’s carrying over to today. Heavy sigh. I just learned I have slipped from RRMS to SPMS. I knew I was getting worse, but somehow hearing the doctor confirm that doesn’t make it any better. Thank you for being there to explain how we feel. Sometimes we don’t have control.

  6. Jennifer Reykjalin
    Jennifer Reykjalin says:

    Thanks for putting this into words! It’s like I can’t explain it to people but this helps when my day seems exhausting!

  7. Leah
    Leah says:

    I had the ‘other’ day just yesterday. I somehow lost my footing and found myself on my bathroom floor. Luckily, I didn’t break anything except for a having a nasty grapefruit of a bruise on my arm.:( On the brighter side…I’ll shop for a few pair of gripper socks so this won’t happen again.:)

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