I have heard “hang on, don’t quit” so many times over the years from other people , but mostly I’ve heard it from myself. I repeat that statement every time I’m faced with a difficulty. My brain is just wired that way, with a do not quit determination. If someone ever told me I couldn’t do something, I saw that as a challenge to prove them wrong.
The hardest thing for me to do is to accept failure. But whose failure? Who gets to define what failure actually means? Failure according to the world is the inability to perform a normal function. So I guess in the world’s eyes, I am a complete and utter failure because I am disabled and unable to do just about anything in a “normal” manner.
I no longer work a full-time job, can’t seem to put a complete thought together in my head without careful planning, have more numb body parts than working ones, and break down in tears more times than I care to admit. It takes me all day to do one load of laundry; I go to the mailbox once a week instead of daily because it’s exhausting; my bed sees me more than my own family does; I lose thoughts, keys and words by the minute; and if I try to stand without holding onto a wall, walker, someone’s arm or a railing, I fall down.
But even with all that, I don’t see myself as a failure. As long as I’m doing my best, that’s all that truly matters…even if I fail in the process.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said…”To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
I agree with him. We aren’t less of a person because we are weak in body. We aren’t failures because we can’t do what the world thinks is important. Our bodies may be failing us, we have to be willing to recognize that, but we are not a failure because of it.
If you woke up this morning, you have already achieved success. Be yourself. Love yourself. Be proud of yourself. You are amazing just as you are.