Have you ever been caught in a situation where you said yes to someone when you really, really, really wanted to say no? You meant to say no. You rehearsed it in your head. But when it came down to it, the word yes tumbled out of your mouth and you were stuck in a commitment you didn’t have the energy for or even want to do.
Years and years ago when I was two years old, saying no was never a problem. It was my job. It was a natural response to anything asked of me. As time went on and I grew up, I learned that saying yes was a better response most of the time, but then somehow I went a bit too far and completely lost the ability to say no.
Saying yes to someone when they need your help just seems like the right thing to do, doesn’t it? To not help would be rude…right? Wrong.
You have to change the way you think and realize that when you say no, you are not being negative or unhelpful. You are not rejecting a person. You are simply not able to add their desired task to your already busy life.
It’s important to take care of yourself. One of the ways you do that is by lessening the amount of stress in your life. Stress can wear on your body. Add that to a daily life of MS and you get hit with a double whammy.
I have discovered that people are happier to accept an honest no than to be given a yes filled with delays and uncertainties. Saying no is not the end of the world either. It’s not a bad word. I have never seen a mountain crumble because someone said no to their friend or boss. I haven’t even felt the earth shift from its rotation. Seems all is well and the world keeps going round and round.
Your life is precious and it’s time for you to honor yourself. Get rid of the over commitments and stop feeling guilty for using the dreaded no word.
How do you do it? How do you say no when everyone is expecting you to say yes?
You just do it. You open your mouth and let the words tumble out. You can add in some politeness by saying “no thank you,” but say it with a smile and without tripping over yourself to explain why. It may take some time to get use to doing, but you will feel lighter and be able to breathe a bit better because of it.