fake friends

A real friend loves you the way you are

We live in a world where people are more concerned with getting their 15 minutes of fame than being real. Think about it for a minute. We are surrounded by hair weaves, reality TV, manufactured food, and plastic people. Sadly, that means that we also have fake friendships. I’m so thankful that not everyone fits into that category; that there are still a few real people in this world.

If you are wondering which of your friends are fake, just reach out for help when you have a need…a real, genuine, deep need. Do you see which ones are still standing with you? Those are the real ones. Many times they aren’t even the ones you thought would be standing there.

Those are the friends you can count on to get you out of a tough time or to help you up when you fall down. They never judge…well, they do, but it’s done in such a way that all you see is their love shining through, never any hate. They help you to become an even better person than you already are.

It’s those fair-weather friends that will drive you crazy, nuts and bonkers all at the same time. They come around when they need something from you, they ask you to dinner for ulterior motives like to fix a dripping faucet, and they use a connection with you for a quicker way to the top. They fake smiles in your presence all for their own gain. You notice it when the tables are turned and you come to them for a cup of water, and…whoosh…they’re gone. Not to buy you some water, but to latch on to the next person that will feed their ego and power trips.

When a crisis happens in your life, that’s when the fake people get weeded out and the true ones are found standing tall. You may still have a few invisible friends hanging around through it all—those people who call you friend but you never see—but to me they don’t count since you don’t even see them.

If Multiple Sclerosis hasn’t weeded people out of your life yet, give it time…it will. That’s not a bad thing though. You want to make sure the people in your life are the real deal. Fake friends seem to create too much drama, and we all know that a person with MS doesn’t need any more added stress, issues or negativity surrounding them.

A real friend loves you just the way you are whether you have warts, an extra toe, or MS. Hang on to them and be sure to let them know just how special they are.

Be like Piglet today…

“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

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About the Author
About the Author
Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

9 replies
  1. Della Smalley says:

    I’ve lost quite a few friends due to my MS but the way I look at it they weren’t friends to begin with.At times I feel alone but I have to tell myself to get over it n push on

  2. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    That’s soooo true. Friends, that’s genuine friends come at no calling but a small ask is all it takes. It is surprising how many a just fryby people. It makes you think how they survive some times.

  3. Chris
    Chris says:

    Great article! Have had the weeding out period, but totally blessed by those who are true, awesome and loving friends!
    I have learned to have real friends I also need to be a real friend!! Life is beautiful as we serve each other out of LOVE !!

  4. K
    K says:

    Great article Penelope! I have seen quite a few of my closest friends slowly disappear it is hard but life goes on. Some days I resent it but mostly I just wish they could actually see what I go though. But the ppl who are in my life are the ones who want to be & I’m grateful for them:)

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