We live in a world where people are more concerned with getting their 15 minutes of fame than being real. Think about it for a minute. We are surrounded by hair weaves, reality TV, manufactured food, and plastic people. Sadly, that means that we also have fake friendships. I’m so thankful that not everyone fits into that category; that there are still a few real people in this world.
If you are wondering which of your friends are fake, just reach out for help when you have a need…a real, genuine, deep need. Do you see which ones are still standing with you? Those are the real ones. Many times they aren’t even the ones you thought would be standing there.
Those are the friends you can count on to get you out of a tough time or to help you up when you fall down. They never judge…well, they do, but it’s done in such a way that all you see is their love shining through, never any hate. They help you to become an even better person than you already are.
It’s those fair-weather friends that will drive you crazy, nuts and bonkers all at the same time. They come around when they need something from you, they ask you to dinner for ulterior motives like to fix a dripping faucet, and they use a connection with you for a quicker way to the top. They fake smiles in your presence all for their own gain. You notice it when the tables are turned and you come to them for a cup of water, and…whoosh…they’re gone. Not to buy you some water, but to latch on to the next person that will feed their ego and power trips.
When a crisis happens in your life, that’s when the fake people get weeded out and the true ones are found standing tall. You may still have a few invisible friends hanging around through it all—those people who call you friend but you never see—but to me they don’t count since you don’t even see them.
If Multiple Sclerosis hasn’t weeded people out of your life yet, give it time…it will. That’s not a bad thing though. You want to make sure the people in your life are the real deal. Fake friends seem to create too much drama, and we all know that a person with MS doesn’t need any more added stress, issues or negativity surrounding them.
A real friend loves you just the way you are whether you have warts, an extra toe, or MS. Hang on to them and be sure to let them know just how special they are.
Be like Piglet today…
“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh