It’s important to value your friends. But who are your friends in the first place?
If the person you call friend makes excuses every time you ask for their help but is always pulling at you when they need something, then you are wasting your time on that friendship and should maybe take a step back to reevaluate things. You should be there for one another. That’s what makes friendship so special. To me, a friend means that the person will be with you through thick and thin…both the good and the bad.
Online, it sounds cool to say, “I have 1,200 friends.” I have even heard people bragging about how many friends they have on Twitter and Facebook alone. But those aren’t friends. I think a better word to describe them would be contacts, but that doesn’t sound as appealing, does it?
We have a tendency to confuse friends with contacts. We find it cold to say acquaintance, colleague or even comrade, so we choose to call everyone our friends. Because of this, the word friend has lost its importance…its value. I have learned that only a few people will truly become your friend. These are kindred spirits that last even when times get tough.
True friendships don’t just happen and they aren’t maintenance free. They take work and they build over time. Sadly when a chronic illness comes into the picture, all those people we thought were friends disappear. I think losing friends should be added to the symptoms of each chronic illness out there because it happens every time.
Maybe friends leave because we require more support. Maybe it’s because we are no longer able to go and do as freely as we did in times past. Maybe it’s because the realness of life is too much for them to face. But regardless of why, if they walk away, they weren’t real friends to begin with. Let them walk.
Someone has said that if you can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand, don’t take them for granted and if you can count them on one finger you are truly blessed. The tough times can’t break true friends apart or tear them down, it strengthens the bond and deepens the roots of friendship.
Do you have a friend like that? Someone that, even if you fall flat on your face, they will offer a helping hand to pull you back up and dust you off; someone who will smile with you, laugh with you and cry with you; someone that holds your heart with the most gentle of care knowing how fragile it truly is; someone that will stand beside you when everyone else has walked away?
Don’t let another day go by without thanking them for being a friend…a true friend. Don’t let another hour, minute or second go by without doing something to show them just how much you appreciate that they are your friend. Send them a letter, an email, or give them a call to just say, “Thanks for being my friend.”