Have you ever had one of those moments when you wished life wasn’t so hard and longed for the negative thoughts rattling around in your head to just shut up? You know…those thoughts that make you feel as if the world is caving in and sucking you down with it. From my experience, it’s easier to handle physical pain than those nagging, constant defeatist thoughts that keep talking and talking and talking. Things like…
How am I going to…?
What am I going to do?
They come at times when you least expect them. It would be different if they let you know they were on their way so you could be prepared and ready for their arrival. This way you could lock the door, bar all the windows, and if you’re anything like me, you could have an Uzi ready to blast them to kingdom come. (Now that would be an amazing fireworks show!)
But, no, they aren’t polite or respectful. They come unannounced, push their way in and make themselves at home. It’s not easy kicking them out either. Although they drive you crazy and wear you down, you learn to put up with their constant nagging and even give them a place to stay…kind of like an unwelcomed relative that comes to visit and then decides to move in rather than going home.
Any thought that is wearing you down shouldn’t be a part of your day, or your life for that matter. Negative thoughts are real and they affect every person on the planet. If someone tries to tell you they never have any…they are lying.
You can’t go a day without something popping into your head that’s negative. It’s a part of human nature. The key to dealing with their entry into your life is deciding what you are going to do with them. That’s what makes the difference. Acknowledge them, face them, learn from them but don’t allow the weight they place on your life to hold you captive. You get to choose if you are going to give them a seat of honor at the dinner table or not?
You are not worthless or unimportant. You are not disabled, differently-abled, unable or incapable. You are not your disability. You are a person who can do the impossible. I mean that too. Don’t let anything get in your way…not your own thoughts, the opinions of others or even the limitations given to you by Multiple Sclerosis.
I once saw someone without arms playing the guitar. I mean really playing. He didn’t let the fact that he had no arms limit his dream. He found a way to make the impossible possible and he just did it. You can find story after story of people doing the impossible. People who chose to not allow their limitations keep them from living.
The impossible happens every day. It can happen in your life too, you just have to determine deep down that you can do it. Dreams don’t happen overnight and they never happen if you aren’t going to do something about them. Just wishing something to happen doesn’t make it a reality.
You will fail. I won’t lie to you and tell you it’s going to be easy, because it won’t. It’s going to be hard and you will fail more than once, twice…okay, more like a gazillion times. It will take lots of work, but the only thing limiting you is you…your own thoughts.
Having a disability totally sucks, but don’t let that stop you from doing the impossible.