In a job interview I was once asked, “If you could be a fruit or a vegetable, what would you be and why?” It was one of those questions used to evaluate a persons personality and quick thinking. I sat there for what seemed like an eternity as I mentally browsed the produce isle of the grocery store, and the thought that tumbled out was, “I would be a peanut.”
I could have picked a watermelon because they make their own fun. You can hold seed spitting contests on a regular basis. Who would’t want to have a life of fun like that? Spitting…on purpose…oh, yeah!
So why a peanut? My answer: because they are never alone. They always have another nut with them in the dark. It’s one thing to have someone with you in the light when times are good, but to have someone sticking around when dark times settle in and the tears begin to fall…now that’s a nut you want to keep by your side.
We all need nuts like that. There won’t be a pile of them, just a few, but those few are all you need. One nut, I mean friend, standing with you…well, it just doesn’t get any better. Make sure you let those friends know how much you love and appreciate them. Don’t ever take them for granted.
From one nut to another…don’t get down on yourself because of the friends that have turned and walked away, or because you had to turn and walk away from the toxic people in your life. Having a chronic disease tends to cause shifts in relationships. I lost a ton of friends. It’s amazing to me how many fake friends there really were in my life. The real ones stayed though, and that’s all that matters.
Be thankful for the few real friends you do have, and if you have none, get out and make at least one. You have to be a friend to make a friend. It takes purpose and it takes work.
Treasure your friends and be sure to keep them close. You don’t need to go through a life with MS alone. Life itself is hard enough. When you add MS into the mix it gets even harder, that’s why it’s important to make your relationships a priority. You are worth it…you nut!