I’m sitting in my favorite chair this morning as I write my thoughts down to start the day. My favorite throw blanket is lying across my lap and out my living room window I can see deer munching on some clover in the back yard. With coffee in hand, I smile at the beauty of a new day.
I enjoy my time of quiet solitude in the mornings. I use that time to collect my thoughts, reflect on times past and prepare myself for the day ahead. I read, I pray, and I sometimes cry. I try to plan my day out but know that those plans can change quicker than Garfield the cat can down a plate of lasagna.
Many of you live with a stable condition of multiple sclerosis. Your days are fairly predictable and you are able to plan ahead easily. You know what to expect and how to adjust to the changes that happen throughout the day. Then there are others, much like myself, who have such unpredictable days, you can’t plan well because MS changes too drastically from one moment to the next. Even in your planning, your plans often fail.
MS is a disease of change. I think we can all agree to that. Some deal with smaller and easier to manage changes, but it’s all still change.
It would be wonderful to know what a day will be like: to plan and be able to keep those plans, to go to parties without leaving early, to spend time with friends without falling asleep on them, to spring clean the house without regretting it later, or even to wash and detail the car without dropping the wash rag every few minutes.
Even though I have trouble doing some of the simplest of things in life, I try to do them anyway…and that’s what counts. I try to do as much as I can when I can and leave the rest to tomorrow.
If you can’t adapt to change, you will find your days hard to get through. For some, it’s not easy learning to go with the flow…to ride down the river of life rather than fighting with it.
It’s okay to end your day differently than you expected, leaving things still to be done. Don’t get frustrated because your house needs to be vacuumed and you don’t have the energy to do it at the moment. I don’t know of anyone with an un-vacuumed house that has stopped the world from spinning causing it to fall off its axis thus ending civilization as we know it. Your day will go on and the vacuuming can wait for another day.
Choose the important things in life to be your focus rather than the things of little importance. I’ve learned that many of the things that I thought were important really weren’t. Use your time wisely and know that YOU are what’s important, not what you can or cannot do.
You are valued, treasured and needed. So today, step into the changing room, put on your MS superhero cape and step out into the world. You got this!!!