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Don’t let Multiple Sclerosis steal your smile

Just so you know, I have my bad days too. I have times when the struggle to think a clear thought causes me to cry rather than laugh. I know what it feels like to be overlooked when plans are being made by friends or co-workers. I know how exhausting, painful and utterly depressing life can be when Multiple Sclerosis just won’t give you a break.

And it’s okay to feel like that. It’s normal. It’s actually quite healthy. It just proves that you’re human. That what you are going through is real. No one…and I mean NO ONE, gets through life only experiencing sunshine and roses. We ALL have moments of mud puddles and torrential rains.

Did you know that without a bad day we wouldn’t know what a good one was? Without the bad things in life…the good wouldn’t really matter. In a way, you could look at it this way: as being grateful for the bad times because they make the good ones that much more enjoyable.

We all have bad days…but we also have the opportunity for good ones. So if you are in the middle of a bad day, bad week, bad year…know that a good one is coming.

Sometimes they sneak up on you without you even noticing. You catch yourself humming a tune as you rinse off the dishes or whistling as you start a load of laundry. Other times it’s more like you won the lottery as moment after moment piles on top of you of great and wonderful things. You find yourself happy and wearing a smile the entire day, week or year. You feel blessed, wonderful, relieved, and care-free.

Those exhilarating times are amazing when they come. They are a welcomed relief to the struggle. Don’t let the fact that you are having a hard time smiling today keep you from smiling tomorrow. Don’t give MS the satisfaction of stealing your smile.

The good and bad ebb and flow just like the tides of the ocean. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to ride the waves. This way when the waters swell and the waves begin pounding at the shore, you won’t go under. You will simply ride it through. And when the waters calm, you will be able to rest.

If you are in the middle of a storm right now, hang on, it will get better. If you are in the middle of glorious rest, hang on and tuck those precious moments down into the deepest places of your heart to be remembered for all times. Never lose your smile. Carry it around with you everywhere you go so that when the bad days come, you will have something to pull out and wear.

It’s an amazing thing to see someone smiling in a storm. It’s like finding a rainbow or watching rays of the sun as they peak out from behind the clouds. You have the ability to do that…to be that. To be something beautiful in the dreariness of life.

Be the rainbow, be the sunshine, and help someone else be the same. Imagine how bright this world would be if we all found our rainbows and sunshine at the same time. Never give up hope!

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About the Author

Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

29 replies
  1. Tiffany
    Tiffany says:

    Thanks for the positive thinking you always give cause it helps me ALOT :):):) I have always said MS will not win I WILL so thank you for your encouraging letters, especially this week you always remind me to look and feel positive about my days even when they are tough ones :):) I love to see the light at the end of the tunnel…….

  2. Rosemary Baird
    Rosemary Baird says:

    The daily struggle with MS and the complication of shingles on top of it is sending me under. And yes, the hurt that people we counted as friends bring, when we realise we are just ‘a project’, nothing more. Thank you for your honesty – your posts help us realise that we are not alone.

  3. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    This applies to all, not just MSers. I haven’t been able to cry or grin much from 1990. this was when Janice was prescribed with something that turned out to be similar to PTSD but not the same, This has been playing on me since then and I seen to have dropped my ‘happy’ side somewhere. And as you say you need some bad times to make the good feel good. If it was all good (like Utopia) it would be boring for us. Let’s not get depressed or overly worried as MS doesn’t kill you only yourself can do that.

  4. Lola Hale
    Lola Hale says:

    Thank you for this xx I am grateful to have other people out in the world who understand how much MS gets into every aspect of life but in saying this, I am also sorry that there are other people living with MS too xxxxx

  5. Sue Smith
    Sue Smith says:

    It can be awfully hard I know today I thought I wasn’t going to make it through but here I am with a glass of wine and some crisps looking forward to sushi and beef wellington (all ready made I can’t do it myself any more but hey ho!). Xx

  6. Della Smalley
    Della Smalley says:

    I have Pseudobular Affect or for short its called PBA n it comes from having MS ur not alone n I can cry at the drop of a hat or even when I’m happy.MS SUCKS BUT WERE SURVIVORS’ Have a good day and God Bless

  7. Aileen Brown
    Aileen Brown says:

    Inspirational as always having a horrible few days but my two youngest grandkids are coming for a sleep over that always puts a smile on my face – hope you’re in the middle of a sunshine time

    • Della Smalley
      Della Smalley says:

      Agree with everything you said n heck no I won’t ever give up.Right now my Pain Level is a 10plus but I’ll never give up.MS Survivor and Fighter💖💖💖🙏😊😊🌷

  8. Jaycie Dass
    Jaycie Dass says:

    this is all so new for me. This morning I woke burning, hurting, crying and just not believing I can do this. I’m sorry I know I’m not supposed to say this. I want to positive and grateful but I don’t want to this. I really really don’t.

    • Penelope Conway
      Penelope Conway says:

      It’s okay to say how you feel. Sometimes it all gets overwhelming. Allow yourself time to get angry, cry, etc… but don’t stay in that place for too long. Find something good in your day to focus on and know that you aren’t alone in this. You are going to get through this. xoxo

      • Jaycie Dass
        Jaycie Dass says:

        Thank you. Once I started moving, wiped my tears, I put my big girl pants on and chose to have a good day.

    • Jana Morgan
      Jana Morgan says:

      Broke my marriage and thought it would break me but I am still here and can laugh at silly thinks still so all is ok. You will get through it even though it is tough now! You will have tough days but they get less and less!

  9. Linda York
    Linda York says:

    I can deal with it, but the fatigue is unbearable, I hate how I wake up walk my dog make me something to eat take my meds, then it’s back to sleep. I wish I could stay awake, no problem at night uh

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