What are you waiting for?

Have you ever had one of those moments when you wished life wasn’t so hard and longed for the negative thoughts rattling around in your head to just shut up? You know…those thoughts that make you feel as if the world is caving in and sucking you down with it. From my experience, it’s easier to handle physical pain than those nagging, constant defeatist thoughts that keep talking and talking and talking. Things like…

Why me?
Why now?
What if…?
How am I going to…?
What am I going to do?

They come at times when you least expect them. It would be different if they let you know they were on their way so you could be prepared and ready for their arrival. This way you could lock the door, bar all the windows, and if you’re anything like me, you could have an Uzi ready to blast them to kingdom come. (Now that would be an amazing fireworks show!)

But, no, they aren’t polite or respectful. They come unannounced, push their way in and make themselves at home. It’s not easy kicking them out either. Although they drive you crazy and wear you down, you learn to put up with their constant nagging and even give them a place to stay…kind of like an unwelcomed relative that comes to visit and then decides to move in rather than going home.

Any thought that is wearing you down shouldn’t be a part of your day, or your life for that matter. Negative thoughts are real and they affect every person on the planet. If someone tries to tell you they never have any…they are lying.

You can’t go a day without something popping into your head that’s negative. It’s a part of human nature. The key to dealing with their entry into your life is deciding what you are going to do with them. That’s what makes the difference. Acknowledge them, face them, learn from them but don’t allow the weight they place on your life to hold you captive. You get to choose if you are going to give them a seat of honor at the dinner table or not?

You are not worthless or unimportant. You are not disabled, differently-abled, unable or incapable. You are not your disability. You are a person who can do the impossible. I mean that too. Don’t let anything get in your way…not your own thoughts, the opinions of others or even the limitations given to you by Multiple Sclerosis.

I once saw someone without arms playing the guitar. I mean really playing. He didn’t let the fact that he had no arms limit his dream. He found a way to make the impossible possible and he just did it. You can find story after story of people doing the impossible. People who chose to not allow their limitations keep them from living.

The impossible happens every day. It can happen in your life too, you just have to determine deep down that you can do it. Dreams don’t happen overnight and they never happen if you aren’t going to do something about them. Just wishing something to happen doesn’t make it a reality.

You will fail. I won’t lie to you and tell you it’s going to be easy, because it won’t. It’s going to be hard and you will fail more than once, twice…okay, more like a gazillion times. It will take lots of work, but the only thing limiting you is you…your own thoughts.

Having a disability totally sucks, but don’t let that stop you from doing the impossible.

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About the Author

Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

9 replies
  1. Jennifer Rosser
    Jennifer Rosser says:

    I hate when it seems like an emotional breakdown just pops up out of nowhere. One minute you feel like everything is ok and the next thing you know you feel like all those negative feelings just hit you like a truck slammed into you. Sometimes it’s just a roller coaster of feelings.

  2. Mel Palmer
    Mel Palmer says:

    It actually occurred to me recently that it would be really interesting to watch some of these judgmental people, live a few days in our lives, then see how amazing they think we are. I reckon we would all come out looking pretty freaking amazing. For some reason (FYI how my mind works is beyond me too), this thought occurred to me just after my grandfather’s funeral! I was standing in the hot sunshine, admiring the hearse – a Cadillac I think – at the time…

  3. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    To deal with and work out where it comes from and what it means to you and your environment can make those thoughts easier to handle. I have had, uninvited as well, many thoughts of negatived type and it can be annoying but I guess this is what the Monster wants us to think about. But I’m not going to go down that path.

  4. Abby Gail Layton
    Abby Gail Layton says:

    as a psychotherapist of many years, and a meditation teacher, i worry about pulling up examples of MS heroes and trying to inspire folks to be more like them. I find that despair, fear, and not knowing are vulnerable feelings that need to be held and understand not swept away. be tender with your heart, hold your fear, allow yourself to grieve. Many of us are wanting to become more open and sweetened by the vulnerable work we are doing in the midst of the MS horror.

  5. Leslie Beaver
    Leslie Beaver says:

    I agree that physical pain is more easily dealt with. But I am very lucky on the other front. Because I have a very supportive wife. Who has never complained that I am no longer able to work. Or even drive. Things are of course still challenging. But I know that I have much to be grateful for.

  6. Susie Jones
    Susie Jones says:

    My constant thought is that this is my life now and short of a miracle, it’s not going to change. I can no longer walk and have a Foley Cath and as much as I have been getting out more, and it’s been fun, non dr.s apps., it has also made me realize this is actually my life now. Not sure how to feel

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