You don’t need to go through a life with MS alone

In a job interview I was once asked, “If you could be a fruit or a vegetable, what would you be and why?” It was one of those questions used to evaluate a persons personality and quick thinking. I sat there for what seemed like an eternity as I mentally browsed the produce isle of the grocery store, and the thought that tumbled out was, “I would be a peanut.”

I could have picked a watermelon because they make their own fun. You can hold seed spitting contests on a regular basis. Who would’t want to have a life of fun like that? Spitting…on purpose…oh, yeah!

So why a peanut? My answer: because they are never alone. They always have another nut with them in the dark. It’s one thing to have someone with you in the light when times are good, but to have someone sticking around when dark times settle in and the tears begin to fall…now that’s a nut you want to keep by your side.

We all need nuts like that. There won’t be a pile of them, just a few, but those few are all you need. One nut, I mean friend, standing with you…well, it just doesn’t get any better. Make sure you let those friends know how much you love and appreciate them. Don’t ever take them for granted.

From one nut to another…don’t get down on yourself because of the friends that have turned and walked away, or because you had to turn and walk away from the toxic people in your life. Having a chronic disease tends to cause shifts in relationships. I lost a ton of friends. It’s amazing to me how many fake friends there really were in my life. The real ones stayed though, and that’s all that matters.

Be thankful for the few real friends you do have, and if you have none, get out and make at least one. You have to be a friend to make a friend. It takes purpose and it takes work.

Treasure your friends and be sure to keep them close. You don’t need to go through a life with MS alone. Life itself is hard enough. When you add MS into the mix it gets even harder, that’s why it’s important to make your relationships a priority. You are worth it…you nut!

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Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

26 replies
  1. Pam James
    Pam James says:

    I agree! a few so called “friends and neighbours” of 25 years standing can’t be bothered just even to make a ‘phone I’m afraid neither can I !

  2. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    It can also be said that a peanut doesn’t show itself until someone takes the time to open it. Then the real peanut is seen. I feel this is a good analogy of how people treat us. We’re not a rough skinned shell but a smooth coat hard ‘nut’ that is the essence of who we are.
    I like your choice for various reasons Penelope thank you.

  3. shari
    shari says:

    Hi Penelope,

    My first thought was grapes, for the same reason, however I do think peanuts are even better, they always have a friend. Friendships are the hardest to keep when one looses energy or when mobility becomes an issue. I cherish those who have walked beside me and have let go of those who weigh me down with expectaions that I cannot meet.
    I too have a partner that has stood fast during these times and am eternally grateful for the support he gives. Thank you for being a special friend, you are always an inspiration.

  4. Judy
    Judy says:

    I especiallyLOVE this one, Penelope! I SO treasure the presence of my partner, who is always there for me, come what may. I am utterly ,indescribably grateful. I am always present for him too, whatever is happening for him. Come what may.

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