What does it mean to be a positive person?

What does it mean to be a positive person?

There are people that misunderstand what it means to be a positive person. Some seem to think it means that you say nothing negative, think nothing negative and basically live in denial of all difficult circumstances in life. They believe that as long as you don’t acknowledge that there’s a problem, then the problem doesn’t really exist, or at least it doesn’t have control over you.

I had a friend who wouldn’t open her electric bill when it came in the mail because she feared the amount it would be if opened. To her, as long as she didn’t see it, it didn’t exist. But if she ignored it long enough, her power would be turned off. No amount of denial would change that fact. She had a bill that needed to be paid and it wasn’t going away unless she faced it and worked out a plan to pay it.

Being a positive person does not mean that you ignore what’s going on. You can’t go through life with your head stuck in the sand refusing to acknowledge the reality of what you are facing. Positive people cry. They get frustrated, angry, and at times want to give up. They have fears, worry, doubt and have moments of deep despair. They have negative thoughts and emotions…


They don’t allow those things to hang around for long. It’s not easy to do either. Facing difficult situations can be scary and stressful, but anyone can learn to look for the positive side to a negative day.

Can you see the good in a rainy day? The rain makes it harder to drive through traffic or to keep your shoes clean, but it brings some much needed water to the earth and creates amazing puddles for you to wade through. Are you more prone to see the mud on your shoes or the rainbow that just formed in the sky? It’s all a matter of perspective. Good and bad both exist in every situation. You have a choice of what you will focus on.

Each person diagnosed with MS is affected by it. We are all human and we all hurt. Anyone that says they never have a negative thought or feeling regarding MS is not being truthful. We all have them. It’s what we do with those thoughts and feelings that matters.

If you need to have a melt down, cry, vent, or even scream…it’s okay. We need to take time to process all that is happening. The continual changes that are happening can get overwhelming.

The fact is, MS is real and it’s not going away tomorrow apart from a miracle. That is the bad. But as you wait for your miracle you can choose to see the good all around you.

Laugh, love, cry, hurt, smile, but choose to live your life each day from a place of positivity. Find the smile in your day, the rainbow in the sky, the good in the bad. Don’t deny that MS exists in your life, just deny its power over you being able to live it.

Now that’s being a positive person.

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About the Author

Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

13 replies
  1. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    It can be hard but isn’t life like that anyway? With MS it is best to put it in perspective and live with it and not try and live without it. Being positive is accepting the problems and living regardless of all the mess it causes. You know it’s not your fault, in fact it’s someone else’s fault we can’t reach. And we can’t get to them to take it away.
    What we can do is try and live with it the best we can and use it to better ourselves in this negative world.
    Lick there has been observed even in the rubbish heap beautiful flowers can grow so let’s be beautiful flowers and not the rubbish.

  2. Maria clancy
    Maria clancy says:

    Hi penelope,are you familar with new study out of oxford,reported on by science editor in “THE.TELEGRAPH” about a 20%increase in chance of MS sufferers going on to develop DEMENTIA?I had my meltdown earlier after reading this,thus tummyache after binging on toffe cake.Thank you for your blog i always say im a warrior when it comes to my own situation.so we will rock on.take care for now🤡🤡🤡🤡

  3. Jo Maxwell
    Jo Maxwell says:

    Today I am feeling the effects of a fall I had yesterday. But I refuse to give into the pain and limited mobility. I went swimming this morning as I do every M,W, F. I had a great swim and feel energized. God has his hand on me and I look to Him and not my pain and limitations!

  4. Leslie Beaver
    Leslie Beaver says:

    Exactly. Positive is not all sunshine and roses. It is realistic. And realism sometimes sucks. But that is ok to express. Just do not let it overwhelm and discourage.

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