Multiple Sclerosis is not your fault

I don’t know why people like to point fingers when something goes wrong. It seems like a common occurrence these days. I know when it come to multiple sclerosis people like to point fingers at something or someone as to the cause. I have heard many crazy as well as plausible theories myself. Maybe you’ve heard some of them too. Things like…

“You have metal fillings in your mouth. I know that’s what causes MS because I read this blog on the internet about it.” Well, I don’t have any, so I guess that one’s debunked for me.

“You must eat a lot of artificial sugars like aspartame. That’s why you have MS.” Well, I don’t. So, hmmm.

“You don’t get out and exercise like I do, after all I’m out running, biking and hiking every weekend.” That’s another no-go since I exercise daily. Just because I can’t do the conventional exercises doesn’t mean I’m not working out.

“You don’t have multiple sclerosis at all. It’s actually Lyme disease or it’s just all in your head.” Another conspiracy gone awry.

Many others have shared stories with me of what people have told them as to why and how they got MS. It’s frustrating for a person with MS to have people flinging around unfounded statements just because of hearsay or something they read on the internet when the fact is no one really knows what causes MS.

Theories and opinions run rampant online, but that’s all they are at this point. And a majority of them have a tendency to do more harm than good in a person’s life. Someone going through the struggle of  living a life with a chronic illness feels bad enough already…piling on some sort of guilt trip and blame, now that’s a double whammy.

Once someone is diagnosed, do the how’s and why’s really matter anyway? Shouldn’t the focus be on today rather than yesterday? Yesterday can’t be changed…but there’s a whole lot that can be done with today.

I know many of you blame yourself. But you have to know that you didn’t cause MS. It’s not your fault. It’s not like you woke up one morning and decided you wanted to get a chronic illness. You didn’t do anything wrong, so don’t listen to those thoughts. They are lies and lies aren’t worth any of your attention. For whatever reason, it chose you, and regardless of what you think I know you are strong enough to handle it.

You may not feel like it right now, but you will make it. It’s okay to be afraid, just don’t let that fear paralyze you and stop you from facing the day. You can do this. Today is a new day and tomorrow is full of countless possibilities.

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About the Author

Penelope Conway

Penelope Conway
Penelope started Positive Living with MS as a way to help others with MS stay positive in the midst of a terrible disease. She believes that staying positive and holding onto hope is the key to waking up each morning with the strength to get through the day. Multiple Sclerosis may never go away, but neither will her determination and her drive to help others through the journey.

11 replies
  1. Colleen B. S.
    Colleen B. S. says:

    Thank you so much. I needed to be reminded that MS is not my fault, I didn’t do anything wrong. It just happened, and I have to continue to be amazing even with all of this!!! God Bless!!!

    • Margaret
      Margaret says:

      Of course you are afraid, you wouldn’t be human if you weren’t. The same goes for anxiety and depression. I was diagnosed fifteen years ago and felt all that. {{hugs}}

  2. Peggy
    Peggy says:

    Heard them all…wondered on some thanks Penelope! I soo
    wish was something so easy as not exercising enough which u did when could as a high school Gymnast who did the Balance beam no less.. was important to me. But NO its Not my fault!!!

  3. Lorna paris
    Lorna paris says:

    Yeah, I would love to be able to blame myself or something minor like Lyme Disease, but in reality MS is out of my control. For me, that is the hard part. Is not losing home, there by helping the painful part of MS to gain a little ground.

  4. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    Thanks again Penelope, you’re right sometimes we have to blame someone so why not ourselves? It is a totally unwanted disease and we didn’t cause it. If you can get it there is a good book called Epona and it’s about a 300 BC princess of the Celts set in central Europe. If you want to blame someone blame them.

  5. Carla L Broadbent Rogers
    Carla L Broadbent Rogers says:

    I changed MS to mean “Mighty Special”. That is what each and everyone of us are. We all have something. Try and make your something special. Be well. All good things now and always.
    Even the people with the certificate in a black frame do not know the reasons. One day.

  6. Vicki Bowland
    Vicki Bowland says:

    Very, very true. I am over the whys and the how’s (a tick, mono, chicken pox; the sun comes up low in the horizon) what I focus on now; is what can I do now! Can I shop; can I read; can I celebrate doing the chores; hey I didn’t fall; sorry hubby my glass of ice dumped in the freezer. Today not yesterday.

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