Multiple Sclerosis depression is a real thing

MS Depression is real. It’s not the same as being sad or feeling blue either. Everybody experiences moments of sadness and have times when the tears flow easily because of an unexpected life change, but with sadness the sun comes out, the tears dry up and life goes on.

Depression is more intense than just being sad. It’s felt deep, it hits hard and it lingers for days, months and sometimes even years without a true grasp as to why. It’s not a part of your imagination or something that you’ve made up.

Life changes living with a chronic illnesses. It changes daily and that can be a hard thing to deal with…living a life filled with uncertainty and constant change. One day you may wake up feeling great and the next day you find you can’t even get out of bed. That kind of turbulence has a tendency to wear on emotions and brings with it a feeling of hopelessness and despair.

I understand how easy it is to grow weary and tired, to go through periods when you would rather hide away than face another day, to become overwhelmed and long for just the tiniest amount of relief.

Our lives are filled with people but sometimes it simply takes too much energy to be around them. Sometimes it’s not even being around them that’s the hard part, sometimes it’s just that putting on a real smile takes too much energy. No one likes to fake-smile their way through a day, but sometimes we do it because we have no other option.

Know that you aren’t alone. I think everyone hits a place in their MS journey when depression becomes real, tears flow, reality sets in, and choices have to be made. Hard choices. How do you bounce back from a deep, dark place of despair? How do you shake feelings that are so overwhelming that you find yourself drowning? How do you learn to live again when you feel as if there’s nothing left to live for?

Please know that it’s okay to ask for help. There’s nothing wrong in reaching out to your doctor or others for support and there’s nothing wrong in choosing to take a medication to help you get through the turmoil you find yourself in. I know how hard it can be, but don’t try to make it alone. We need one another and we need to be able to talk about what’s happening deep inside without fear of being judged or not taken seriously.

I know it’s not easy, but you can rise above the chaos. You can pull out of the messiness that life throws at you and rise above it all to a better place; a place filled with hope, smiles, laughter and joy. It starts with you taking care of you first.

When you feel like you are sinking deeper and deeper into nothingness, you have to put everything else aside to focus on yourself. Yes, you are that valuable. You are that important. You are that special. You matter!

Never apologize for who you are. You are going to make it through even this. It’s okay to be real, to hurt, to be human. Let the tears flow but if you find yourself hanging out in the puddles for too long, please, please, please reach out for help. There really is hope for a better tomorrow.

If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.

Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do. ― Stephen Fry

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10 replies
  1. Rita
    Rita says:

    My question would be: how to live with depression and don’t take those prescribing drugs that bring those terrible side effects? This is my dilemma, I don’t know witch one is the worse. Depression, like you said, makes us feel hopeless about the future; everything seems unreachable or very difficult to reach. 🙁

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  2. Peggy
    Peggy says:

    Thanks I know it is real for me it comes and goes. But i have an older sister who is Bi polar with out having MS. My family doesn’t understand the difference. They keep comparing us to her and i hate that. It doesn’t help her at all.
    Our depression is so different.
    I also live away from them so they don’t see me.Hubby helps pull me back in also. Anyone can sound fine over the phone!
    I soo wish they understood

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  3. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    Thank you Penelope. I know depression is very hard to live with, my wife gets that way fairly often and I have learnt to live with it. I was depressed a while ago when we were looking after an Asperger sufferer girl and it took a toll on me. And you call to rely on help to get you through this mess.

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  4. Roland R Clarke
    Roland R Clarke says:

    Your post came at the right moment, when I’m struggling out of a mire. You help and inspire me to fight. Many thanks.

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  5. Dorothyanne Brown
    Dorothyanne Brown says:

    Depression was one of the first signs of my MS.It’s not so much being depressed about the disease as it is caused by the disease. Lesions in the wrong spot on your brain. I get tired of being told that of course I am depressed BECAUSE I have MS – its not a reactive depression that is easier to cure.

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  6. Bunny
    Bunny says:

    thank you for capturing and truly understanding the “definition” of depression—there is no definition.
    it spans a huge spectrum of emotions. it was wonderful reading your post, written by someone who knows what we go through and to let us know it’s ok, we’re not alone and most important, seek help!!! talk to your doctor!!!
    i did. best thing i ever did for myself. which in turn has a positive domino effect on my family.
    big comforting hugs to all.

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  7. Linda
    Linda says:

    I had a dear friend who once told me ” it takes everything I have in me to appear normal
    each day.” Then one day, I suppose it because more than he could bear, and he took his own life. I never knew what normal meant to him.

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