You can’t go through a life with MS alone

In a job interview I was once asked, “If you could be a fruit or a vegetable, what would you be and why?” It was one of those questions used to evaluate a persons personality and quick thinking. I sat there for what seemed like an eternity as I mentally browsed the produce isle of the grocery store, and the thought that tumbled out was, “I would be a peanut.”

I could have picked a watermelon because they make their own fun. You can hold seed spitting contests on a regular basis. Who would’t want to have a life of fun like that? Spitting…on purpose…oh, yeah!

So why a peanut? My answer: because they are never alone. They always have another nut with them in the dark. It’s one thing to have someone with you in the light when times are good, but to have someone sticking around when dark times settle in and the tears begin to fall…now that’s a nut you want to keep by your side.

We all need nuts like that. There won’t be a pile of them, just a few, but those few are all you need. To have one nut, I mean friend, standing with you…well, it just doesn’t get any better. Make sure you let those friends know how much you love and appreciate them. Don’t ever take them for granted because they are a rare breed.

From one nut to another…don’t get down on yourself because of the friends that have turned and walked away, or because you had to turn and walk away from the toxic people in your life.

Having a chronic disease tends to cause changes in relationships. I lost a ton of friends. It’s amazing to me how many fake friends there really were in my life. The real ones stayed though, and that’s all that matters.

Be thankful for the few real friends you do have, and if you have none, get out and make at least one. You have to be a friend to make a friend. It takes purpose and it takes work.

Treasure your friends and be sure to keep them close. You can’t go through a life with MS alone. Life itself is hard enough. When you add MS into the mix it gets even harder, that’s why it’s important to make your relationships a priority. You are worth it…you nut!

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4 replies
  1. Rodger Ashton-Smith
    Rodger Ashton-Smith says:

    Thank you Penelope you have a good grip on this mess. I agree we are all nuts and we all need at least one good and close friend. This could be a relative, friend, or spouse. I am still in hospital and be transferred to another for rehabilitation so I can safely move around at home. It has been a struggle but the help has been missing for too many years.

  2. madeline newton
    madeline newton says:

    love it so true and just to the point …love it …we do have to have someone to back us up that is true to us …
    i have a wonderful husband that is here for me thru all of it …at first it was hard but now it is so special for he does see and knows what the ideas and problems are and no matter what helps me thru so much…him and our special little nut or dog ….our kids check on us and it is great to have a family that does care about both of us….love is wonderful and it sure helps with anything or anyone that is true to their heart ….

  3. Peggy
    Peggy says:

    Soooo true! I have my hubby (nut) with me. Have lost othersa that can call on . My family too. I hope you have a few nuts mean friends too Penelope

  4. Chris
    Chris says:

    YES!! Be brave and ask others to be with you. Go to a support group, MS drug talk-free food and others, a church, call a MS Navigator thru the MS Society, volunteer, be a friend to someone else! We are made for relationshipn with other nuts!! Thank you for your wisdom & encouragement Penelope!!


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