A new year has begun

It’s hard to believe that another year is over and a new year has begun. As they say “out with the old, in with the new,” right? It’s a new year, a new day, I have a fresh cup of coffee… same ole body. Hmm, that didn’t go as planned. I guess you can’t have everything you wish for. I tried wishing for a million dollars too but that didn’t work out for me either. I still have the same bills, house payments, piles of dirty laundry and dishes to clean.

I think the new and the old ran into each other and crashed into a pile on my bedroom floor. It even tried pulling me down there the other day. That accounts for the bruises I now have.

As I reflect over the year gone by, I realize I have experienced some truly wonderful, beautiful moments. Times that made me sing even though I can no longer carry a tune. Times that gave me great joy and created memories that I will hold on to for the rest of my life.

It has also been a year filled with pain, weariness and sorrow. Those are the times I wish I could forget but know I won’t because those moments are still a part of who I am. If nothing else, they have made me stronger. And trust me, I need all the strength I can get right about now.

Last year at this time with multiple sclerosis I was struggling with the use of my legs more than I ever thought possible. I couldn’t hold myself up in a standing position without support or use the recumbent bike in my exercise room without using stretchy bands to hold my legs into position by tying them around my calves in order to peddle without my legs flopping off their position. Rehab was my goal to gain further use of my legs.

Although rehab was well worth it and the exercises I learned I still do to this day, my legs never returned to their full function. Does that make me sad? Angry? Fearful? Sure. But I’m not going to let my disability stop me from living even if I do it from my chair shaking my trembling fist in the air at MS.

I know it’s not easy to find the good around you when the tears come so easy, but there is good out there. Being diagnosed with MS isn’t the end of the world so don’t let it ruin your year before it even gets started. There is a light shining through the darkness. And no, it’s not the light of a train barreling down the tracks heading in your direction. It’s hope.

Regardless of everything happening in your world and the weakness you feel in your body, choose to go into today filled with hope. Hope is the very thing that will get you through the struggle and keep you going when everything else around you appears to be falling apart. Hope that in spite of MS you will accomplish great things this year.

I hope for strength.
I hope for less pain.
I hope for laughter.
I hope for understanding.
I hope for pancakes, lots of coffee, and chocolate…definitely chocolate.

Out of everything I could hope for, most of all… I hope for hope.

Think back over last year. I’m sure you’ve had both beautiful and terrible moments. Times that make you still smile to this day and others that bring tears to your eyes. That’s called life… and you lived it. You experienced it. And although your experiences have changed how you do certain things, why you do them and when you do them, they haven’t changed the person that you are. You are still you.

You may live life differently than you have in times past. You may need additional tools to help you get through your day. You may get tired and weaker faster than before. You may even do everything slower. But you… YOU are not your MS.

You are an amazing, beautiful, lovely, awesome, precious, one-of-a-kind, delightfully unique individual. There is no one else in the entire universe like you. You have so much to offer the world, even with a disability. Don’t allow MS the satisfaction of stopping you from enjoying life or even from enjoying today.

As this year begins, choose to be thankful for all the beautiful moments you have waiting for you and choose to use the terrible times of yesterday as bricks to fill in the potholes along the way. I can’t promise you that the new year will be wonderful and void of any pain, but I can promise you that each brick you place along your MS journey, you are building a path that may ease the burdens of those that will come along behind you.

MS may only leave destruction in its path, but you are leaving a legacy of strength, resilience and beauty. You didn’t know you were doing all that, did you? Don’t ever underestimate your value and worth. You are priceless and those bricks… well, they just might be rubies, emeralds and diamonds which only get formed by pressure! You’ve had loads of pressure to build from. I’m proud of you for not giving up.