Today I didn’t grieve for my health issues

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How many days do I get up in the morning and say “Maybe my hands will work for me to get dressed without difficulties. Maybe I can get through my morning without a bathroom mishap. Maybe the pain in my body is manageable and doesn’t interfere with my quality of life. Maybe multiple sclerosis will behave and allow me to run some much needed errands.”?

Sometimes feeling lonely overwhelms me. I have sensed a feeling of abandonment more times than I care to admit. Not because of anything in particular, but just because I find it’s not that easy to get some much needed help for everyday events like preparing a meal or cleaning the house.

Recently I have noticed that I get upset easier. I have been in arguments or quarrels for no reason at all. My emotions are just on edge and have a tendency to overwhelm me. I feel like people I used to count on have moved away from my life which in a way is something to be grateful for… but still unnerving. I don’t need complicated people to complicate my already chaotic life.

Today I didn’t grieve for my health issues… I looked at my life and was thankful for my doctor which I will be seeing later in the day hoping it’s a good appointment. I looked out at how hard the wind was blowing and was thankful that I have a roof over my head, heat in the house and food in the cupboard. That I have friends and some family members who love me and contact me just to see how I’m doing.

My back porch has been setup with comfortable seating to enjoy the warmer weather when it comes and it’s been cleaned… the spring cleaning way. It was a much needed job to get done. Family came by unexpectedly and helped me out. That was a much appreciated thing to have happen. How can I show my gratitude? I feel like just saying thank you to everyone in my life isn’t enough gratitude, but it is.

I can do acts of kindness. I can perhaps slip a card of encouragement to someone secretly that I know can use it. Often, many people I see just want to talk to someone. That doesn’t cost a penny. For the most part, my time is free to give. Maybe some people won’t understand how special those kinds of times are, but I do and will still cherish them.

Today, ask yourself what you have done lately to show your gratitude for the day? Sometimes all that’s needed is our attention and looking around just to notice what’s actually there. There’s always something. What are you grateful for?

 

 

Sometimes a little change is all you need

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I decided to color my hair after years of allowing it to go grey. The main reason was because living with grey hair started making me feel old. I needed a pick me up moment and oddly enough coloring my hair did the job.

I’m back to being a redhead. The change very likely activated the ‘happy’ chemicals in my brain, like serotonin and dopamine, and accounts for the lift in my spirits. It’s like how a change in scenery is recommended for depressed people. My hairdo change has helped to lift my spirits. Now when I look in the mirror I feel more confident and happy.

I’m not sure if my hair will stay red forever, but right now, it’s given me a powerful push in the right direction toward feeling like the best version of myself. For now, I’m going to bask in my changed hair color and continue to find new ways to keep these feelings up even if I let my natural color grow back.

I’ve purchased a couple of boxes of hair dye to use every 4 months or so to upkeep the red color. It’s amazing how something like this can make such a difference. I wasn’t going to let multiple sclerosis define my mental well-being. At least I have some control over something myself.

I have to say I was in a better mood when I went to the store yesterday and even spent more time talking to the clerk and customers. Nothing big, but I know I was smiling more. That’s always a plus.

Don’t blame yourself for the bad days, and don’t despair when they come. Pay attention to your body’s cues, go easy on yourself, and know that, at the very least, making a small change here or there can help lift your mood for the better.

I don’t take good picture, but here you go… no makeup and all.

A multiple sclerosis life can be challenging

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I woke up this morning uninspired by the coming days. I got my coffee and thought about what I had to do for the week. Not one of my favorite things because I know it’s going to be hard days ahead. A part of my lawn needs to be tilled and grass seed planted to remove the centipede grass that has taken over from the neighbors yard. My lawn is Bermuda grass. It’s supposed to rain tomorrow so I want to get it done before the rain. The seeds will need the water.

I also have a section of lawn in the front yard that has settled making a hilly part in that area a bit wonky. I need to dig up a portion of it, level the earth there, and replant the unearthed grass. It should be easy right? Ugh, wrong.

My legs don’t hold me up well and using my old powerchair that I use for gardening work is not that easy to use for the hard work ahead. My hands don’t work well either so it’s going to be a comical mess. I’m trying to psych myself up for it.

The thing I have to remember is that I’m not invincible and can’t do things as I could in the past. So what gets done, great! But be sure to give myself some grace as I go and don’t be too hard on myself for things not going as planned. That’s the actual hard part.

In my mind I should be able to do it, but I know my body will fail me along the way, and that’s okay. If I could hire a gardener, I would. That’s a given. But the work is up to me complete. Sometime that’s the hardest part… overcoming my bodily limitations and being okay with the outcome.

I must always pay close attention to how much I’m pushing myself and the added demands I’m placing on my body. It’s okay to take breaks and rest when needed but to always come back with renewed energy and determination. A multiple sclerosis life can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that we are all capable of overcoming obstacles.

Although I can’t plan for every hurdle I might encounter, understand that a slow but consistent effort is vital to rebuilding my strength and nurturing my body.

At times like these I’m reminded of the following quote…

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It might be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

– Edgar A. Guest