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Multiple sclerosis is your reality

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I know your heart is heavy. Right now you are on the verge of tears…tears that have been collecting deep in the spaces of your heart and flooding over into your mind. You have met reality face to face and you don’t like it one bit. Multiple sclerosis is your reality. It’s real and you feel it deep. You are finding yourself overwhelmed and challenged in every area of life, and you feel the weight of simply getting through today to be daunting. Laundry has piled up and errands are on hold as you sit alone feeling like you’re about to break.

You don’t feel very brave right now. Sure, when you go out the door with a smile plastered across your face, you are brave. But that’s a mask you wear out in public to cover the pain. Here you sit, alone, and the mask comes off. Your thoughts are running wild and the tears begin to fall.

Where’s your brave when you feel numb to the core? Where’s your brave when all you see is clouds before you and not one ray of sunlight can be found? Where’s your brave when you run into walls, trip on invisible obstacles, can’t walk across the room, choke on air, your body trembles, and you drop everything you try to hold? Where’s your brave when you feel defeated? Where’s your brave then?

I want you to know that you are brave even when you can’t feel it. There truly is strength in you. A strength so amazing that even you don’t know it’s there. You’ve held on this long…that is brave. I know it’s terrifying. I know it’s not easy. You don’t see it, but I sure do. You are a brave multiple sclerosis survivor in this fight.

Rise up and be confident in who you are. Don’t give up just because the road is hard. It takes a strong person to wake up in the morning and face a new day surrounded by challenges, pain and uncertainty…and you are doing it.

Discouragement will happen, exhaustion and stress will find you, but don’t allow your heart to grow weary too. It’s okay to let the tears flow. Sometimes that’s all you need to do to lighten the load. Let it go and find your brave today, because you are brave! I can see it.

Finding the rainbow in the storm

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I woke up Monday morning to a strange sound coming from my bathroom. I wheeled myself into the bathroom and found water pouring from the bottom of toilet tank. There was at least a half an inch of water on the floor. I shut off the water behind the toilet, opened the tank and found the entire flush valve system needed to be replaced due to a faulty rubber washer. Not something I wanted to tackle.

I went to the local home improvement store and bought a new one then came home and changed out all the needed components. It was then that I discovered I needed a replacement braided supply line for the toilet that connects the water to the toilet. The plastic nut attached to the hose had broken off in the night. That was one of the reasons for the leak. I made a second trip to the store, made it home, fixed the toilet, opened the water line, adjusted the water level in the tank and all is well. No more leaks.

To repair the leak I had to mop up a ton of water from the floor. I got more wet cleaning up the floor than taking a shower. Of course I had to take a shower afterwards anyway but wasn’t planning that kind of adventure.

The unexpected happens though, doesn’t it? Sometimes it can be really sneaky and creep up on us, but it happens. Each day is a journey into the unknown. One day you may wake up and discover the sun shining and the next day find yourself in the middle of a storm that is spinning out of control. That’s just how life is. Add multiple sclerosis into the mix and it becomes an outright adventure.

We have gone through our entire existence up until this point in time knowing that each day is unique and filled with change. We try to find ways to predict those changes, but even the weatherman gets it wrong most of the time. Living with MS is no different.

One day you may wake up with a new symptom starting to develop…but you may not. You may notice numbness increasing…but you may not. You may feel more weakness…but you may not. Just as with life, MS changes day to day, and sometimes minute to minute.

When you are newly diagnosed, that can be a scary thing to face. Change isn’t easy. But as time passes you begin to find a routine in a life of change. As strange as that sounds, you do.

This morning, don’t focus on the storm MS has brought your way… look for the rainbow. All storms have them if you know where to look. Put your rain boots on and go splash in the puddles. Find something to smile about. Do something you enjoy. You might get wet in the process, but that’s all just a part of living.

Then dry yourself off and find something to smile about. I’m smiling about having the sense to be able to repair my toilet without calling a plumber to help. No huge bill to pay. Anytime that kind of thing happens it makes me smile.

Whether you win or lose, at least you know who you are

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I actually struggle with a daily life of multiple sclerosis and all the unpredictable circumstances that threaten to overwhelm me. Some days I struggle just to get out of bed in the morning. Many times I don’t feel like doing the things I know I need to do which means they don’t get done. Lately for one reason or another MS has been winning the struggle.

Like yesterday I kept putting off taking my trash out and now I’m too tired to even think about it. My motivation just jumped out the window and I don’t even have the strength to chase it down. Before I go to bed tonight I have to take it out because trash pick up is tomorrow morning. We’ll see how well that goes. I wish I had little helpers for days like this.

It’s been below freezing temperatures here so I think that has something to do with it. My muscles just don’t work well with freezing temperatures. They have a tendency to seize up and getting them moving takes lots of extra work. Sometimes work that my body can’t seem to find strength for.

Discouragement sets in and rising above the funk is terribly hard to handle. I hate when my emotions get out of whack like that. It happens more than people would believe. I can go from laughing to crying in one second flat.

When I think about the circumstances, people, and events happening around me they are all manageable when I take them in little bits at a time. I have to be cautious so I don’t get overwhelmed. MS hasn’t changed, life around me has. I need to stay focused on what’s important, I need to look out for myself and I need to not feel guilty or get upset when things don’t go as planned.

I know that’s not easy. It actually takes a lot of hard work, but work that’s worth it. Next time you feel drained or emotionally out of whack, remember that you have a choice. You can wrap yourself up in excuses and self-pity, or you can choose to reach out of yourself and find the strength you need to keep going and rise above your circumstances. You’ve got it within you to do this. I believe in you. If I can do this… so can you!

You’ve made it this far in life with multiple sclerosis

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You’ve made it this far in life living with multiple sclerosis, so what makes you think you will fall short of your goals now? Whether they are goals of being able to care for yourself, goals of using your muscles to get around without burdening others, or goals of hanging on to sanity in a crazy mixed up world.

You have had your fair share of those who delight in foreseeing problems in your life because of MS. Those who actually enjoy criticizing any failures you’ve dealt with regardless of the cause, and freely voicing their opinions while dwelling in the comfortable safety of theory, unbelief and inactivity.

Words, words, and more worthless words have been used against you along your journey. When will you finally decide to believe in the beauty of who you are? When will you choose to laugh at all those silly careless words that have been spoken against you and toss those words away… rising above the shadows that loom in the distance?

If it is safety you want, then you will do far better by removing any distractions or obstacles in your way so you can follow your heart. Has experience not taught you this. Besides, warriors like us have always seen safety in a different light than those who try to make a living out of exploiting the disabled. Yes, those people do exist.

Laugh at the threats that come your way. Laugh and get on with enjoying your life. I do. Follow your heart and follow your dreams… you have great ones to follow.

I’m fighting a monster called multiple sclerosis

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I have learned more about myself than I ever thought possible because of a monster called multiple sclerosis.

I’m braver now even though I didn’t know MS existed in my life until I was in my 40’s. I fought through mind numbing pain, muscle weakness and tears. I fought it daily with a sword in my hand while yelling, “Hiyah!”.

I’m stronger now because I had to be. My choice was fight or give up, but I’m not a quitter. That’s just not a part of my DNA. So fight, I did. I learned how to use a cane, then a walker and now a wheelchair. I learned what foods benefit my body the most and what supplements help me to cope.

I’m happier now because I’ve discovered what really matters most in life. It’s crazy how that happens. You face down a beast like MS and discover a strength that you didn’t even know you had and that many things in life aren’t really that important anymore. Hold onto true friends and family, and let the other things go. You don’t need the extra baggage. It will only weigh you down and hold you back.

I stand taller, figuratively, because I am a survivor. Yes, there will be struggles and pain. There will be times I may be fearful of tomorrow or even of the next step I need to take, but I will push to the end and give it I’ve got.

Remember, you are not alone in this fight. The great Rocky Balboa said, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.”

Come fight with me.