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“No” is not a bad word

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I woke up in tears yesterday. No reason. Nothing bad happened to me in the middle of the night. I didn’t wake up from a nightmare, my goldfish didn’t die and I wasn’t in a lot of unbearable pain. My emotions just went haywire all on their own. I hate when that happens. I take meds to help keep my emotions stabilized, but yesterday’s dose must have been a dud.

Multiple Sclerosis has this way of messing with a person’s emotions. Sometimes there’s a valid reason for the crazy mood swings we experience. Things like the fact that we are dealing with daily challenges and changes in life that sometimes become overwhelming and difficult to handle.

But there are actual times when our emotions get all out of whack for no reason other than the fact that the wiring in our brain is short circuiting and playing around with our emotions. That really happens. MS messes with my ability to walk, think, talk, see, and sometimes it seems to get bored doing all of that and decides to get its awful little hands on how I feel too. It seems nothing is off limits to this monster.

When a friend got to my house for her planned visit, I was sobbing into a sock. (Don’t judge. I didn’t have any tissue nearby so I used what I had. Besides, surprisingly enough socks actually work pretty good as tissues.) Just having her with me helped to calm my tears.

Sometimes someone assuring you that things are going to be okay really does help. Sometimes all we need is a hug, a kind word, a gentle touch, or a hand to hold. Although those things don’t change what’s happening in our life or restructure our brains, they comfort the heart.

I won’t lie to you, life with MS can be tough at times. I go through periods when I simply want to get away from it all…no distractions, no phone calls, no text messages, no people, no MS (now, that one I can’t seem to get away from), no anything. It’s at those times when I will curl up in my comfy overstuffed chair, turn my phone off and do absolutely nothing.

I know it seems impossible to be able to do nothing because even doing nothing is doing something, but somehow I manage to do it. Wait a minute, maybe I really am doing something when I think I’m doing nothing but since my brain scatters my thoughts I forget the something I was supposed to be doing which turns it into nothing. Now there’s a thought to ponder.

When I take the time to get away from the mess that is overtaking my life into a place of solitude, I come back better focused and my emotions calm down. Sometimes it’s takes just 5 minutes of being away to regroup my thoughts. Other times it’s more like 30 minutes, an hour or even a day. But that pause does something magical and helps me to tackle even the hardest of tasks.

I can remember the times when my workload would become intense at my job. The pressure, the stress…it would become overwhelming. When that happened, I would walk away from my desk and lock myself in a bathroom stall down the hall to just pause and breathe. That was the only place I knew I could truly be alone and get away from everyone and everything. Somehow time stood still for me in the bathroom.

I know that sounds weird to some people, but short breaks like that really help. We all need a place where we can get away from the craziness in life and be able to focus on things other than MS, medical bills and the to-do list that never seems to get done.

I sometimes went to my car at lunch time to be alone and would even take a nap to clear my mind. Don’t feel guilty stepping away to take a pause. Take the time you need even if that means telling someone “no.”

If I could reach through the screen to you, I’d hold your hand and remind you of how truly amazing you are. I’d listen to you talk about your struggles, your challenges, your fears, and remind you that no matter what you’re facing, you are strong enough… much stronger than you give yourself credit for. I’d cry with you, make you giggle and let you have my last cookie. (You know you’re special if I share my cookies with you.)

If today is a “cry in your oatmeal” kind of day… go ahead and cry. It’s okay to do that. Let it all out. Then dry your tears and remind yourself that you are a champion, a winner, a warrior. You may not feel like one, but you are and all warriors need a break. Sometimes just a little pause makes a world of difference.

Don’t stop trying to be the best that you can be regardless of MS or whatever else you may be facing. You are stronger than you think. I believe in you. Love yourself enough to set boundaries.

Life in Scleropolis

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In the heart of the bustling city of Scleropolis, where the sky often mirrored the spectrum of human emotions, lived a community of unique individuals, each bound by a common thread—multiple sclerosis. Here, the disease wasn’t a shadow lurking in the corners of life but a character in its narrative, shaping the city’s culture, architecture, and daily interactions.

Scleropolis was known for its adaptive architecture. Buildings featured ramps with gentle inclines, wide doorways, and floors covered in soft, durable materials to ease the journey of those with mobility challenges. The city center was a mosaic of vibrant colors, with public art installations that celebrated resilience and adaptability.

Our story follows three residents, each with their own tale intertwined with MS:

Mira, the artist, had her hands dance less freely with time, but her vision remained sharp. She pioneered a technique in painting, using eye-tracking technology to create breathtaking murals that adorned the city’s walls. Her latest piece, “The Dance of Nerves,” depicted the erratic yet beautiful patterns of nerve impulses, turning her personal battle into a public celebration of life’s unpredictability.

Leo, once a marathon runner, now navigated life with a cane but had found new purpose as the city’s chief urban planner. His firsthand experience with MS led him to design pathways and parks that not only catered to those with mobility aids but also encouraged community interaction. His project, “The Path of Unity,” was a trail that meandered through Scleropolis, where every bench was a communication hub, and every lamp post bore a plaque with stories of local heroes—many of whom had MS.

Elijah, the tech-guru, had turned his fatigue and cognitive challenges into motivation. He developed an app called “Sclero-Mate,” which not only helped manage medication schedules and symptoms but also connected users to support groups, local events, and even job opportunities tailored for those with fluctuating health conditions. His app became the lifeline for many, fostering a network of support where isolation once thrived.

In Scleropolis, every day was an unspoken festival of human spirit. The city held annual events like the “Walk and Roll,” where everyone, regardless of their mobility, participated in a parade through the city, showcasing inventions, art, and stories. Music filled the air, not just from the bands but from the city’s heartbeat, the collective resilience of its people.

One chilly morning, as the sun pierced through the fog, Mira, Leo, and Elijah met at the “Square of Beginnings,” where a new community center was to be unveiled. This center, a project they all contributed to, was designed to be a hub for creativity, health, and technology, embodying the ethos of Scleropolis.

As they stood there, watching the community gather, a sense of profound connection washed over them. Here, in Scleropolis, MS was not just about the struggles; it was about the stories, the adaptations, and the unyielding human spirit. The city was a testament to living not in spite of MS but with it, turning what many see as a limitation into a canvas of possibilities.

The narrative of Scleropolis was one of inspiration, reminding everyone that life, like the neurons in a human body, can find new pathways, new dances, and new songs to sing, even when the old ones fade.

A year of new beginnings

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There are resolutions we set all throughout the year: For a car or house payment to be made on time, for medications to be taken as prescribed, for being good to yourself… so many things. They are thought of more as commitments, but they are resolutions. When I looked it up in the dictionary, a resolutions is a promise to yourself to do or to not do something.

For me I work to make sure my bed is made every morning. It’s just something I have done since I was little and not making it kind of sets me on edge. I will make sure I do the work even when I’m feeling miserable. I also make sure I use my calendar to help me keep my finances in order, set schedules to make sure my nails get trimmed and my hair is cut, and also plan my house cleaning is small sections at a time. This way eventually everything gets cleaned no matter how immobile I become. It’s taken a lot of trial and error but eventually I have made a system that works for me.

Keeping a resolution involves several strategies to ensure you maintain motivation and commitment. If there is something you want to do better in 2025, here are some practical steps to help you get there.

1. Set Realistic Goals

Be Specific: Instead of “I want to lose weight,” say “I will lose 10 pounds in 3 months by exercising 3 times a week.”
Make it Attainable: Ensure your goals are within your capability to avoid discouragement.

2. Break It Down

Divide your resolution into smaller, manageable tasks. For example, if your resolution is to read more, set a goal to read 20 pages each night.

3. Plan and Schedule

Create a Timeline: Use a calendar or planner to schedule when you’ll work on your resolution.
Routine: Incorporate your new habit into your daily routine to make it a part of your life.

4. Track Your Progress

Use apps, journals, or visual charts to keep track of your progress. Seeing how far you’ve come can be motivating.

5. Accountability

Buddy System: Find a friend or family member with a similar goal or who can support you. Sharing your progress can increase commitment. Sometimes, telling others about your resolution can add an extra layer of accountability.

6. Reward Yourself

Set up small rewards for achieving milestones. These should be positive reinforcements like a movie night or a small treat, not counterproductive to your goal.

7. Be Flexible

Life happens, and sometimes you might slip. Don’t view this as a failure but as a part of the journey. Adjust your plan if necessary without giving up on the overall goal.

8. Understand Your Motivations

Keep reminding yourself why you set this resolution. Whether it’s for health, happiness, or personal growth, recalling your “why” can reignite your drive.

9. Learn from Setbacks

Instead of getting discouraged by setbacks, analyze what led to them and how you can avoid similar situations in the future.

10. Positive Reinforcement

Use positive affirmations or motivational quotes. Sometimes, a little self-talk can go a long way in keeping you on track.

11. Review and Adjust

Periodically review your progress. If something isn’t working, adjust your strategy rather than abandoning the resolution.

Remember, the key is consistency over perfection. Every day you stick to your resolution, even in small ways, counts towards building a new habit or achieving your goal. If you find yourself struggling, revisit your plan, and don’t hesitate to seek support from others. Happy New Year, and here’s to achieving your 2025 resolutions!

GoFundMe Support for Positive Living with MS

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I am Penelope Conway, the founder and writer of Positive Living with MS and I am raising money to cover the yearly costs for my website at GoFundMe.

I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 2013 and went about looking for information about MS, the drugs used to help, and healthcare in general. Some of the things I learned were great, some not so much, but all of it beneficial.

One thing that truly annoyed me was when I would visit support groups at that time I always left feeling worse than when I had arrived. Most groups were just woe-is-me sessions and left me with an icky heaviness inside. So my remedy was to never go back to them.

Can’t people talk about MS and still laugh and enjoy themselves without all the woe-is-me attitudes? I found few resources for positive encouragement at that time. A place to laugh, to cry, to share, to just feel normal in the midst of a life of chaos. That’s when I decided to start something myself, thus the birth of Positive Living with MS.

I don’t make any money posting things online I just gain great new connections with people all around the world. One of my most popular posts is MS Facts. Beware… there’s humor in there to talk about all the symptoms we deal with. My video is also a favorite which I plan to do more of this coming year.

I try to post on my blog once a week to talk about my own experiences with MS, and post daily on social media to facebook and X. I’m glad to be able to share my journey with everyone.

I use whatever reach I have to talk about multiple sclerosis: the good, the bad and the ugly. Some with humor, some with tears, but all with a matter-of-fact straight talk. I don’t sugar coat things to make others feel comfortable about the topic I’m discussing. I just tell it like it is from my perspective.

I no longer work due to the progression of MS in my body. I have trouble cognitively as well as with uncontrollable tremors and weakness.

I only have my social security benefits to cover my living costs and squeeze out all I can to pay for the website. Thank you in advance for your support.

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My body has limitations that aren’t negotiable

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Stating my reality is not an excuse. When I tell you I can’t do something or I’m in pain, it’s not an excuse. It’s not a matter of not being positive enough or not trying hard enough. It’s my reality. It’s the truth.

It’s important to understand that being realistic does NOT mean giving up on your dreams. If there is something you really passionately want to do, but it would be challenging, you still may be able to do it if you plan and prepare appropriately.

Consider each activity more by how much you want to do it, or what you are willing to lose or miss out on if you do it, rather than trying to do everything you used to do. You know your body’s limits, and what is or isn’t worth the fight.

Be conservative in your planning at first so you can learn what your limitations and capabilities really are. Be aware that they can change often but you do have every right to push your limits and try to do the things that are important to you. The key part is to figure out what that looks like for you. Sometimes what you think will be super easy can actually be some of the most difficult things you do.

I have gone from being the person who organizes events to someone who is unlikely to have the cognitive space to complete the plans and worse, may pull out at the last minute or even won’t be able to join in on the celebration. Sometimes I am not even strong enough to take a shower in order to make myself presentable. I typically manage a quick text, before sinking back into exhaustion. Holiday times are the worst experiences for me.

An observation I have made is that some of my friends and family have taken this personally and assume that my change in behavior is a reflection of my feelings for them, rather than a symptom of MS which can change from day to day.

I can be so quiet about my struggle that people around me can forget they I’m hurting. This doesn’t mean I’m not having difficulties, it simply means I don’t want to bother them and keep saying the same thing over and over again like a broken record. I just wish my struggle could be better understood by those around me and that my worth wasn’t defined by what I can or can’t do.

This kind of disconnect can cause loneliness to set in which is tough to get through. The magic of human connection, just being seen and heard through the MS struggle, can be a great relief to the loneliness. A real conversation with someone who has taken time to ask and then genuinely listen can be worth more than all the plans and parties combined.

Stay strong for who you are — a person deserving of love. You have so much to offer the world just by being your authentic self. Don’t let self-doubt hold you back from living a meaningful life and embracing moments of joy and connection with others.

I want you to know that you are not a burden. Don’t let those negative thoughts define you. Your challenges or limitations do not make you any less worthy or valuable. There are people who see your strength and resilience in the face of difficulties and are encouraged by it. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who appreciate you for who you are, imperfections and all. Be the reason they feel less like a burden and more like a blessing.

I want you to know there is light ahead, even in your darkest moments. You can get through this. Stay strong and keep your head held high. Happier days are coming!

Something bizarre happened to me

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Sometimes bizarre things happen with multiple sclerosis just because it exists. After all, we live with a strange, unpredictable disease that seems to have a mind of its own. At times I do things so strange that blaming it on MS isn’t even fair. Out of everything that has happened I blame my right hand for it all. My right hand is more of a paperweight than something of use anyway. Between tremors and weakness, it’s useless.

Some of the really strange things that happen need to be discussed more often so more people are aware of the challenges we face.  The strangest symptoms I’ve dealt with include:

  • Feeling as if an internal earthquake is taking place inside my body.
  • Experiencing ringing in my ears that sometimes is louder than a crowd at a ball game.
  • Feeling as if water is dripping on me when I’m no where near a faucet.
  • The unrelenting crushing feeling of the MS hug which is more like a tight girdle wrapped around the rib cage or a boa constrictor that won’t let go.
  • Feeling as if food is stuck in my throat when I haven’t eaten anything.
  • Involuntary movements of my body like me accidentally kicking the doctor.
  • Abnormal sensations on my skin such as burning, pins and needles, and even itching that nothing seems to be able to alleviate.
  • Feeling an electrical shock sensation through my arms and legs when I tilt my neck downward.
  • Feelings of dizziness and being off-balance which accompanies nausea.
  • Experiencing emotional incontinence which brings on uncontrollable laughter or tears.
  • Dealing with 3-D illusions like when an object is moving straight towards me but it appears to be swerving and shifting in its path.

I have also noticed a strange phenomenon since having MS. I don’t have a clue if it’s actually related to MS in any way as I’ve never heard it talked about, but I thought I would mention it so others who are dealing with the same things don’t think they are going crazy.

When I get something as simple as a pimple on my face (it’s not just for teenagers, you know), it will take a few months to fully heal instead of days as in times past. I’ve noticed the same thing happens with cuts too. I cut my finger in the kitchen and after a month it has healed aside for a slightly puffiness. I’m just glad my hand is numb and I can’t feel any pain that is going on inside. It’s healing at its own slow pace. Bizarrely slow, I have to say.

It could be due to some of the medications I take. I take things for muscle spasms, pain, dizziness, help with sleeping, and temors. A daily cocktail along with a slew of supplements and vitamins. It’s crazy because before MS I didn’t even take aspirin or cold medicine, now I have a rainbow collection of pills that would put a package of Skittles to shame.

When I was first diagnosed with MS I was taking a med called Rebif. I had to give myself inter-muscular shots 3 times a week, similar to those taking Copaxone. Those shots would bruise me so bad that over time I looked like I was being abused. I would have bruises on my thighs, arms and belly and they would take forever to heal. But the med would end up making me feel worse than MS actually did. I was medicating myself for the side effects of the medication. Such a vicious cycle that I’m glad ended when I stopped taking it. I would rather let MS progress naturally than feel miserable trying to medicate for a hopeful slower progression of MS.

Keeping a healthy diet helps to manage some issues, but it won’t rid the body of everything MS. I’m truly overjoyed for those that are able to fully manage MS by the things they eat and the supplements they take, but it’s important for people to understand that not everybody has such great results. Each of us is unique with our own cellular makeup and our own responses to diet and medications.

If you face slow wound healing, know that you aren’t alone. I’m sitting here with a puffy finger and a pimple on my chin to prove it happens.

It’s necessary for a person on a journey with MS to be able to recognize why coping with their illness is difficult. Knowing how crazy MS can be can help ease the burden, even if only for a little while. You got this.

How to Cope When Everything Keeps Changing

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I always say that living with multiple sclerosis changes normal (whatever that actually is) and everyone around me is finally getting a taste at having to find their new normal in the midst of the crazy world we live in. If someone could find normal for me and let me know where and what it is, I’d like to know so I wouldn’t have to spend so much time searching for it.

One great thing about the changes I have had to make is I get an opportunity to evaluate life a bit more closely and get rid of the toxic people and unnecessary things that were making life harder… without the added guilt. I know my life has gotten less complicated because of it and I like that.

Someone asked me, “How can you be positive surrounded by the mess happening in the world today?” Being a positive person while living with multiple sclerosis sounds like an impossibility. Is it even possible? Some would say it can’t be done. They would say that MS is so full of uncertainties, pain and complications that there is no way to face it with a positive attitude. But it can be done and is being done by thousands of people every day.

How can anyone keep a positive attitude while facing such hard times happening all around? Staying positive is not about hiding from the reality of what you are going through by trying to cover up the struggle in an attempt to keep the world from knowing it exists. MS exists. Hard times are real. Tears happen. No amount of covering it up is going to make it go away or lessen its troubles.

Being positive means that even though you are in the middle of the storm of all storms in life, you get out of bed in order to face a new day. Even when the pain has you doubled over in tears, you keep going. Even when your brain is foggy and your words are muddled, you give of yourself. Even when your life has spun out of control, you fight because you simply refuse to be defeated.

You are a fighter. Do you go through your day constantly complaining or do you try to find a small ray of light in the trial…a smile in the struggle? You can do this! You are doing this. I am so proud of you.

It’s alright to have negative thoughts when your path bends the wrong way or the unexpected happens. Don’t beat yourself up when negative feelings, thoughts, or words creep into your life. You haven’t done anything wrong. That’s just a part of being human. It’s okay to cry, to be afraid and get frustrated.

The challenge is to not let those negative things pull you down and hold you back from moving forward. Allow yourself to be real, to feel, cry, struggle and fight, yet still hang on to hope that today will be better than yesterday. Hope shows up when you need it the most. Hang onto hope. You got this.

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I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.
― C. JoyBell C.

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I know what it’s like to be chronically tired

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At the end of an exhausting day yesterday, I collapsed into my bed and tried to sleep. You know, that thing where you curl up, close your eyes, snore and drool? Unfortunately, it didn’t work out for me last night.

I spent the entire time awake through the yawns. I even tried counting sheep but they were no help. I think they actually went to sleep without me because at some point in the night I ran out of sheep to count. Now, here I am still awake at 5:30 AM watching the sun come up and wondering how I’m going to get through my already exhausting day.

Just so you know…

  • I know what it’s like to lie down in the bed at the end of the day only to watch the clock as the minutes tick by with each passing hour.
  • I know about those moments you ‘re about to drift off to sleep when your brain suddenly gets this weird burst of energy and decides to wake up and ponder everything ponderable.
  • I know the feeling of frustration and discouragement when MS seems to be winning the battle with sleep as muscle spasms, tremors and pain relentlessly pulse through your body.
  • I know what it’s like to not be able to sleep even with medications and supplements promoted to help you sleep.
  • I know what it’s like to drag yourself out of bed in the morning so exhausted, and with your muscles so tight, that you can’t move gracefully…or even at all.
  • I know how it feels to stumble into the kitchen to start your day when your entire body feels like you woke up with a hangover times ten.
  • I know how hard it is to put a smile on your face when you at greeted by a cheery “good morning” from your spouse, child or hungry dog.
  • I know what it’s like to think to yourself day in and day out, “If only I could sleep through the night, life would be so much better.”

I know what it’s like to be chronically tired.

I can’t promise you that you will ever feel completely rested when you get out of bed each morning even if you’ve slept through the night, but I can promise you that you will make it through your exhausting day… eventually, minute by minute, step by step.

Hang in there today. You’re doing great, even if you are too tired to see it. Living with multiple sclerosis is truly exhausting but you will make it through your day. Even though you don’t believe it, you will be stronger for it.

Welcome the day and hang in there moving little by little until you’re able to push through the pain, tremors, muscle weakness and even the negative thoughts that have a tendency to show up out of nowhere. It’s going to be a good day. Cheer up. I just know it.

How I do it… living with multiple sclerosis

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When people ask me how I do it, how I get through my day living with multiple sclerosis? I’m not really sure how to respond. The best answer I have been able to come up with is, “I just do it.” I know that’s not a deeply profound response and Nike already has rights to the saying, but the question is not really something that can be answered.

MS invaded my life without my permission. It simply moved in and took over. It’s not something I can simply choose to no longer have around. If only it were that simple. To just say to MS, “Get lost.” Wouldn’t that be incredible? Only I would use some rather different words that might offend some people and would be sure to have a battle axe and a few hand grenades along with me too.

Since I can’t force MS out of my life, I have to learn to live with it. There’s no other choice. I can try ignoring it, but ignoring something screaming in my ear and chiseling away at my insides isn’t possible.

From the outside my invisible struggle doesn’t seem so bad to people. It actually looks quite easy. But if you could look inside my body and truly see what I am dealing with every day…Oh, my, what a different story you would have to tell.

If there was a picture window into my life, people would see that my Central Nervous System (CNS) looks much like the chaos after a storm has blown through town tearing up everything in sight. Some areas in my CNS have been damaged, others completely destroyed. The foundation is still there, but the pipes have burst and the electricity is out.

After a storm people work tirelessly to patch things up as best they can to try and get their house back working, but it will never be the same. There will always be remnants of the storm that came through and never a guarantee that another one won’t blow through again.

Today, I live in a pieced together body with duct taped wires, glued together pipes and heavily caulked walls. Things still leak, wires still get crossed and new storms still show up, but I “just do it.”

Elizabeth Taylor, who struggled daily due to lifelong chronic back pain, said it oh so well…“You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot before the other, and [gosh darn it], you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about your business of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way.”

We are living with a forever disease

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We live in a messed up world in a messed up body with a messed up disease, so when things get messed up around us…why are we so surprised? Don’t let the messes mess up your day. One thing to keep in mind is that we are living with multiple sclerosis, a forever disease, as crazy as that may seem.

There is nothing as of yet to rid the body of MS. Yes, you can manage the symptoms and sometimes even make them appear as though they don’t even exist. But don’t kid yourself. You still have MS even when it’s hidden. Be mindful of your body and what it’s telling you. Only you can hear it. Sometimes it will be annoyingly screaming at you to pay attention. Please stop and listen.

Growing up in a family of seven, we had our fair share of messes. I loved baking and would enter contests from time to time. As a ten year old I could make a killer lemon cake. It won me a blue ribbon more than once.

I was taught to clean up as you go. I had fun as I gathered all my ingredients; measured out what I needed; sifted, mixed, cracked, whipped, poured, and baked. The entire time I was also cleaning up, putting away, rinsing and washing to keep from having too big of a mess. By time the cake was in the oven, I was ready to watch it rise.

Now my oldest brother, that was a different story. You let him loose in the kitchen and it would turn out looking like a tornado hit it. He had no concept of order, he just had fun. He could make some amazing oatmeal cookies, scrambled eggs and even sirloin steaks, you just didn’t want to go in the kitchen afterwards. It was messier than messy. It was what I called confused chaos. It would take him time, but the kitchen would eventual get cleaned up and looking just as amazing as his food tasted.

We both had messes to face, we just chose our own way of dealing with them. I would tackle things bit by bit as they came along and he would wait to attack them all at once. We both had fun, we both had messes, but in the end we both had something amazing.

It bothers me when people come along trying to dictate how to live with MS as if the mess we find ourselves living in has a one stop, one way fix. What makes people think they’re the experts at living with a chronic illness just because it works for some, never for all? If I choose to follow a certain diet, something different than you…am I wrong, or are you wrong? If I choose to not take meds and you choose to take something…am I wrong, or are you? If I chose to visit a doctor and you chose to stay home, who’s right and who’s wrong?

Each person is different with different bodily makeup, different cell structures, different DNA, different problems, really different everything. What works for one won’t necessarily work for another. To be honest, one drug may harm a person as well as help another.

You see, we each have our own lives, our own messes, our own chaos and our own fun. No one is right or wrong in how they go about living with MS. There are always things we could do better and new things to learn, but NEVER should we act as if we are the guru of all knowledge and wisdom regarding something as unknowable as MS and the human body, because we aren’t. It’s just that each of us deals with the mess in different ways.

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad because they chose something different than you. You be you and do what you know you need to do for yourself. You know your body better because you are the one actually living in it. Be unique, be crazy, make a mess, try new things, make mistakes, and even succeed…but most of all, hang onto the smiles around you and enjoy living.

There’s only one you and only one today, but there is a potential for lots of smiles to help you through this messed up life we have. Choose to find the smiles.